Board Thread:Off Topic/@comment-1687225-20130320160637

Let me begin with a story. I was on youtube, arguing (yes, I'm one of THOSE people) about unit balance in Starcraft. After the person I was talking to was essentially backed into a corner, he/she pulls out the classical internet ace in the hole: "Get a girlfriend and get laid, you virgin!".

Now, I am in a happy relationship, and have been for three years. I have also had sex. Any person who has had either of the above knows that sex and relationships can be (and mostly are) great experiences. ''But they aren't necessarily life-changing ones. ''You don't suddenly transform into a wise guru beyond your years from a country bumpkin the instant you have sex. Same thing goes for a relationship.

Seeing an exchange like this, I am reminded of Valentine's Day back in high school. On one hand, there'd be the love birds making out (sometimes grotesquely) in public. On the other (more annoying) hand, there'd be a bunch of whiners who complain about being "forever alone" or making some racket about how commercialized Valentine's Day is. I remember being single, and I remember how I was soemtimes jealous of couples and whatever magic they were experiencing. But, as with many things in life, it was a "grass greener on the other side of the hill" type of jig. Being in a relationship is fun; depending on who you are and who your significant other is, it can, indeed, be life changing and wonderful. But it's not THAT amazing. Same goes for sex (perhaps more so). I bet you that the only people who say "get a girlfriend!" are the ones that haven't been in a (serious) relationship; I can assure you that the only people who say "get laid, you virgin!" are themselves virgins. Because us relationship-committed lovebirds and non-virgins know that it's not that big of a deal. It's like how the people who boast about drinking gallons of booze usually have not touched alcohol at all in their lives (or are total lightweights) and the ones that talk a big talk about fighting their parents all the time and being a total rebel meekly do their homework and clear the table when they go home.

In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is this: If you're in a relationship and enjoy sex with your partners, I'm really happy for you and wish you well. If you're not in a relationship and really do care about this virginity thing, it's not that big of a deal. Be a good person, and distinguish yourself, and your time will come. Then you'll look back on these days and think to yourself, "Why on earth did I make such a huge deal of it in the first place?" 